Work gets your best, home gets the rest
Patient and present for clients. Short and distracted at the dinner table on Wild Horse Creek Road.
Life Coach in Chesterfield, MO
Brian BachmanExecutive Coach · MA, LPC
A successful life can still need redesign. This is life coaching with psychological depth.
You are not in crisis. You simply know that the life you built in Chesterfield or West County is not working as well as it should: a career going well while home gets the depleted version of you, goals reached that felt less satisfying than promised, a pattern you cannot stop repeating. I am a licensed counselor with ten years of clinical practice who now coaches professionals privately, in person in Chesterfield and West County or by video.
Does this sound like you?
Nothing is dramatically wrong. Several parts of life no longer fit together.
You reached the goals and feel flat
The house, the title, the security. You have it and are not sure what it was for.
Your marriage became logistics
Calendars, kids, and very little joy. You have not laughed together in a while.
A pattern keeps repeating
Control, avoidance, overwork, defensiveness. You understand it. You still do it.
You cannot rest without guilt
A day off produces anxiety. You have not had a hobby in years.
You want more than motivation
Not affirmations. A real understanding of how you operate and what to change, from someone who can keep it private.
What this life coaching is
Understand the whole system before deciding what to fix.
Most life coaching offers encouragement. This offers a structured look at how your work, relationships, stress, habits, and sense of purpose are interacting, a written synthesis of the patterns connecting your complaints, and specific experiments to test between meetings. The clinical training is what lets me see the loop; the coaching is what turns it into change.
It is coaching, not counseling. If your primary need is treatment for a mental-health condition, I will say so and help you find it; my clinical practice is separate from this site. Coaching is the right fit when you are functioning well and want serious growth, clearer decisions, and a life that fits together again. See a sample Whole-Person Profile
A story I see often
A Chesterfield couple realized they had lost the ability to laugh together.
Details changed. He ran a growing company. She ran the family. Evenings were two screens in one room, and the marriage was a competent partnership with nothing obviously wrong and no joy. When we mapped where his attention actually went in a week, almost none of it landed on the person he said he had been working for.
The work was not a date-night schedule. It was the pattern that made work feel safer than home, and then small experiments: phones in a drawer, a silly game from when they were dating, one honest conversation about what each of them missed. She said the first time he laughed at something she said, she cried.
How an engagement starts
Four steps from “something is off” to a plan you can actually run.
A 20-minute call about fit
You tell me what is actually going on. I tell you honestly whether it is the kind of problem I help with, and whether coaching or clinical care is the right door. No pitch, and no pressure to decide on the call.
We pick the right depth
One defined problem is Focused Coaching. A problem that crosses work and home is Integrated Coaching. If you want a full working model of how you operate, that is Private Advisory. I will tell you which one fits, including when the answer is the cheaper one.
I build the map
Integrated and Private Advisory engagements start with assessment and a written synthesis: strengths, blind spots, the patterns connecting your complaints, and the two or three leverage points that will change the most. See a sample Whole-Person Profile
We test it against real life
Meetings roughly every other week. Between them you run specific experiments: a conversation you have been avoiding, a decision, a boundary, a different response under pressure. The map gets corrected by what actually happens.
Three depths of engagement
The engagement should match the problem, not force every client through the same process.
Focused Coaching
$2,750 · 2 months
One defined problem, four private meetings, specific experiments between them, and a written continuation plan. For people who already know what needs attention.
Integrated Coaching
$4,500 · 4 months
Most clients start here. A problem that crosses several areas of life, a targeted whole-person assessment, a written synthesis, eight meetings, and a check-in between them.
Private Advisory
$7,800 · 6 months
A comprehensive Whole-Person Profile, twelve meetings, priority access, optional spouse perspective, and a final synthesis of what changed. For a select few who want the full model.
“Through Brian’s wisdom and direction, we’ve recalibrated my home life. Our family has never been so close. Instead of repeating generational failure, we’re fixing it.”
Questions
What people usually want to know before they book.
Do you have an office in Chesterfield?
No, by design. I meet local clients at their home, office, or another private location in Chesterfield, Clarkson Valley, Creve Coeur, and West County. Video is also available.
How is this different from other life coaches?
A Missouri counseling license, a decade of clinical practice, a seminary degree, and a structured whole-person assessment. Most life coaching offers encouragement. This offers a working model of how you operate and specific work on what to change.
Is this counseling?
No. Coaching is provided under a coaching agreement and is organized around patterns, decisions, and implementation. If what you describe needs clinical care, I will say so; my clinical practice is separate from this site.
Do you coach couples?
The engagement is individual, and changing your half of a pattern usually changes the pattern. In Private Advisory, a spouse’s perspective can be included with your consent. If couples therapy is what is needed, I will say so.
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Private whole-person coaching
If several parts of your life have stopped fitting together, the answer is rarely to fix them one at a time.
A 20-minute private conversation. No pitch. We look at the whole picture and decide together whether it is worth working on.
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